.....................panduan pergaulan antara lelaki dan perempuan.......

Ikhtilath dari segi lughah membawa maksud campuran/mixture. Dari segi istilah, ia(atau percampuran antara lelaki wanita) yg diharamkan pd pandangan syarak ialah ikhtilat yg membawa kpd perkara haram spt zina atau muqadimah2nya.

Terdapat pencampuran yang dilarang oleh syara’ dan dibenarkan oleh syarak. Yang dilarang oleh syara’ dan disebut dlm dalil2 spt:

1. Berdua2an antara lelaki dan perempuan (Muttafaq `alaih)
2. Tidak menunduk pandangan (Ghaddul Bashar)
3. Tidak menutup aurat
4. Bertabarruj
5. Berkomunikasi dgn suara menggoda (Surah Al-Ahzab: ayat 32)

Wanita juga seharusnya menjaga aurat mereka dengan berhijab iaitu melabuhkan pakaian sehingga melepasi paras dada, tidak berwangi-wangian dan tidak menghiasi pakaian mereka dengan warna-warna yang menarik perhatian lelaki.

Bahagia dan sengsara ada petandanya. Berikut ini adalah tanda bahagia dan sengsara dalam kehidupan kita



Tanda-tanda Bahagia

1. Menjauhkan diri dari urusan dunia dan senang kepada urusan akhirat
2. Kemahuan kuat terhadap ibadah dan membaca al-Quran
3. Sedikit bicara terhadap apa yang tidak diperlukan
4. Sangat memelihara sholat lima waktu
5. Menjaga diri dari yang haram dan syubhat, sedikit atau banyak
6. Bersahabat dengan orang-orang soleh dan baik
7. Rendah diri
8. Bersifat dermawan yang ikhlas
9. Belas kasihan terhadap makhluk-makhluk Allah yang lain
10. Bermanfaat kepada orang lain
11. Selalu ingat mati dan bersiap sedia menghadapinya


Tanda-tanda Sengsara
1. Rakus terhadap harta dunia
2. Kemauan nafsu yang kuat dan cenderung pada kelezatan dunia
3. Perkataan yang kotor dan banyak ghibah (menceritakan cela orang lain)
4. Menganggap enteng sholat 5 waktu.
5. Bersahabat dengan orang-orang fasik
6. Buruk prilakunya
7. Sombong dan tinggi hati
8. Enggan memberi kebaikan kepada orang lain
9. Sedikit kasih sayang terhadap orang yang beriman
10. Pengecut
11. Lupa terhadap mati

(Dipetik dari kitab Tanhibul Ghafilin)

Sebelum Imam Syafie kembali ke rahmatullah, beliau sempat berwasiat kepada para muridnya dan umat Islam seluruhnya. Berikut ialah wasiat tersebut : “Barangsiapa yang ingin meninggalkan dunia dalam keadaan selamat maka hendaklah ia mengamalkan sepuluh perkara.”




1. HAK KEPADA DIRI
Mengurangkan tidur, mengurangkan makan, mengurangkan percakapan yang berpada-pada dengan rezeki yang ada.

2. HAK KEPADA MAUT
Mengqadhakan kewajipan-kewajipan yang tertinggal, mendapatkan kemaafan dari orang yang pernah kita zalimi, membuat persediaan untuk mati dan merasa cinta kepada Allah.

3. HAK KEPADA KUBUR
Membuang tabiat kencing marata-rata, memperbanyakkan solat Tahajjud dan membantu orang yang dizalimi.

4. HAK KEPADA MUNKAR DAN NAKIR
Tidak berdusta, berkata benar, meninggalkan maksiat dan nasihat-menasihati.

5. HAK KEPADA MIZAN (Neraca Timbangan Amal Pada Hari Kiamat)
Menahan kemarahan, banyak berzikir, mengikhlaskan amalan dan sanggup menanggung kesusahan.

6. HAK KEPADA SIRAT (Titian yang Merentangi Neraka Pada Hari Akhirat)
Membuang tabiat suka mengumpat, bersikap warak, suka membantu orang beriman dan suka berjemaah.

7. HAK KEPADA MALIK (Malaikat Penjaga Neraka)
Menangis lantaran takutkan Allah s.w.t, berbuat baik kepada ibu bapa, bersedekah secara terang-terangan serta sembunyi dan memperelok akhlak.

8. HAK KEPADA RIDHWAN (Malaikat Penjaga Syurga)
Berasa redha dengan Qadha’ Allah, bersabar menerima bala, bersyukur ke atas nikmat Allah dan bertaubat dari melakukan maksiat.

9. HAK KEPADA NABI S.A.W
Berselawat ke atas Baginda, berpegang kepada syariat, bergantung kepada as-Sunnah (Hadith), menyayangi para sahabat, dan bersaing dalam mencari keredhaan Allah.

10. HAK KEPADA ALLAH S.W.T
Mengajak manusia ke arah kebaikan, mencegah manusia dari kemungkaran, menyukai ketaatan dan membenci kemaksiatan.

Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda “Sampaikan pesanku biarpun satu ayat…..”

Menurut Islam, sesiapa yang meninggalkan bergelak tertawa akan mendapat
darjat yang tinggi di sisi Allah. Sabda Rasulullah S.A.W. yang bermaksud: "Dan siapa yang meninggalkan senda gurau diberi wibawa dan
keindahan, dan siapa yang meninggalkan tertawa, maka ia berwibawa dan hebat, dan siapa yang tidak menginginkan kekayaan orang maka ia
dicintai." (Hadis Sahih).

What are the signs of Allaah’s love for His worshippers?


It is the spirit of faith and good deeds… by means of which one may draw closer to Allaah… which, when it is absent, one is like a body in which there is no soul.”

The love of Allaah has signs and causes which are like the key to the door. These causes include the following:

1 –Following the guidance of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Allaah says in His Holy Book (interpretation of the meaning):

“Say (O Muhammad to mankind): If you (really) love Allaah, then follow me (i.e. accept Islamic Monotheism, follow the Qur’aan and the Sunnah), Allaah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful” (Aal ‘Imraan 3:31)

2-5 – Being humble towards the believers and stern towards the kaafirs, waging jihad for the sake of Allaah, and not fearing anyone or anything but Him. Allaah has mentioned these qualities in a single verse, in which He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“O you who believe! Whoever from among you turns back from his religion (Islam), Allaah will bring a people whom He will love and they will love Him; humble towards the believers, stern towards the disbelievers, fighting in the way of Allaah, and never fear of the blame of the blamers” (al-Maa'idah 5:54)

In this verse Allaah describes the attributes of those whom He loves, the first of which is: humility and not being arrogant towards the Muslims, and being stern towards the kaafirs, and not humbling or humiliating oneself before them. They (the ones whom Allaah loves) strive for the sake of Allaah, against the Shaytaan, the kuffaar, the hypocrites and the evildoers, and they strive against their own selves (jihad al-nafs). They do not fear the blame of any blamer, because so long as they are following the commands of their religion, he will not care about anyone who mocks him or blames him.

6 – Doing naafil (supererogatory) acts of worship. Allaah says – according to a hadeeth qudsi – “My slave keeps drawing near to me by means of supererogatory acts of worship until I love Him.” Supererogatory acts of worship include naafil prayers, charity, ‘Umrah, Hajj and fasting.

8-12 – Loving, visiting one another, helping one another (financially) and offering sincere advice to one another for the sake of Allaah.

These attributes were mentioned in a single hadeeth in which the Messenger Shalallahu ‘alaihi wa Salam narrated that his Lord said: “My love is guaranteed for two who love one another for My sake; My love is guaranteed for two who visit one another for My sake; My love is guaranteed for two who help one another (financially) for My sake; My love is guaranteed to two who uphold ties with one another for My sake.”

Narrated by Ahmad, 4/236 and 5/236; al-Tanaasuh by Ibn Hibbaan, 3/338; the two ahaadeeth were classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 3019, 3020, 3021.

What is meant by “two who visit one another for My sake” is that they only visit one another for the sake of Allaah, seeking thereby His pleasure for their loving one another for His sake or cooperating in worshipping Him.

From al-Muntaqa Sharh al-Muwatta’, hadeeth 1779.

13 – Being tested. Calamities and disasters are a test for a person, and this is a sign that Allaah loves him, because this is like medicine: even though it is bitter, but still you offer the medicine, despite its bitterness, to the one whom you love; and Allaah’s is the highest description. According to a saheeh hadeeth: “The greatest reward comes from the greatest trial. When Allaah loves people, He tests them, and whoever accepts it gains the pleasure of Allaah and whoever complains earns His wrath.

Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2396; Ibn Maajah, 4031; classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani.

For calamities to befall the believer is better than punishments being stored up for him in the Hereafter. How can it be otherwise when he is raised in status and his bad deeds are erased thereby? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When Allaah wills good for His slave, He hastens his punishment in this world, and when He wills bad for His slave, He withholds his sins until he comes with them on the Day of Resurrection.”

Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2396; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani.

The scholars have explained that the one from whom calamities and trials are withheld is the hypocrite, for Allaah withholds [his punishment] in this world, so as to bring him with all his sins on the Day of Resurrection.

O Allaah, make us among those whom You love.

If Allaah loves you, do not ask about the good that you will attain and the virtue that you will acquire… it is sufficient for you to know that you are beloved of Allaah. The great fruits of the love of Allaah for His slave are as follows:

1 – People will love him and he will be accepted on earth, as it says in the hadeeth narrated by al-Bukhaari (3209): “When Allaah loves a slave, He says to Jibreel, 'I love so-and-so, so love him,' so Jibreel loves him and then calls out to the people of heaven, 'Allaah loves so-and-so, so love him,' and the people of heaven love him, and then acceptance is placed in the Earth for him."

2 – What Allaah has mentioned in the hadeeth qudsi of the great virtues of those whom He loves. It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said: The Messenger of Allaah Shalallahu ‘alaihi wa Salam said: “Whosoever shows enmity to someone devoted to Me, I shall be at war with him. My servant draws not near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My servant continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him. When I love him I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely give it to him, and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant him it. I do not hesitate about anything as much as I hesitate about [seizing] the soul of My faithful servant: he hates death and I hate hurting him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6502.

This hadeeth qudsi includes a number of benefits of Allaah’s love for His slave:

(i) “I am his hearing with which he hears” i.e., he does not listen to anything but that which Allaah loves.

(ii) “his seeing with which he sees” i.e., he does not see anything but that which Allaah loves.

(iii) “his hand with which he strikes” i.e., he does not do anything with his hand but that which Allaah loves.

(iv) “and his foot with which he walks” i.e., he does not go towards anything but that which Allaah loves.

(v) “Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely give it to him” i.e., his du’aa’s are heard and his requests are granted.

(vi) “and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant him it” i.e., he is protected by Allaah from all things…

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